Think on these things - JK

Questioner: What is intelligence? 

Krishnamurti: Let us go into the question very slowly, patiently, and find out. To find out is not to come to a conclusion. I don't know if you see the difference. The moment you come to a conclusion as to what intelligence is, you cease to be intelligent. That is what most of the older people have done: they have come to conclusions. Therefore they have ceased to be intelligent. So you have found out one thing right off: that an intelligent mind is one which is constantly learning, never concluding. 

What is intelligence? Most people are satisfied with a definition of what intelligence is. Either they say, "That is a good explanation", or they prefer their own explanation; and a mind that is satisfied with an explanation is very superficial, therefore it is not intelligent. You have begun to see that an intelligent mind is a mind which is not satisfied with explanations, with conclusions; nor is it a mind that believes, because belief is again another form of conclusion. An intelligent mind is an inquiring mind, a mind that is watching, learning, studying.

 Which means what? That there is intelligence only when there is no fear, when you are willing to rebel, to go against the whole social structure in order to find out what God is, or to discover the truth of anything. Intelligence is not knowledge. If you could read all the books in the world it would not give you intelligence. Intelligence is something very subtle; it has no anchorage. it comes into being only when you understand the total process of the mind - not the mind according to some philosopher or teacher, but your own mind. 

Your mind is the result of all humanity, and when you understand it you don't have to study a single book, because the mind contains the whole knowledge of the past. So intelligence comes into being with the understanding of yourself; and you can understand yourself only in relation to the world of people, things and ideas. Intelligence is not something that you can acquire, like learning; it arises with great revolt, that is, when there is no fear - which means, really, when there is a sense of love. 

For when there is no fear, there is love. If you are only interested in explanations, I am afraid you will feel that I have not answered your question. To ask what is intelligence is like asking what is life. Life is study, play, sex, work, quarrel, envy, ambition, love, beauty, truth - life is everything, is it not? But you see, most of us have not the patience earnestly and consistently to pursue this inquiry.

The measure of intelligence is the ability to change

“The measure of intelligence is the ability to change.”
― Albert Einstein

Adaptafuckinbility...this owl knows all about it :) 

By defining intelligence as the capacity to change in order to solve problems, it becomes clear that the problems which require the greatest change also require the highest form of intelligence. 

In a relatively short time life on earth has achieved awe-inspiring feats. Our ability to ask new questions, break through dogma and forge new frontiers relies on our ability to adapt. 

From single cell life to walking on the moon...life is a story of change. 

Defining intelligence as the capacity for adaptation is useful for three reasons. 

1. It's broad. 
People often attribute intelligence to individuals or groups that have learned to solve difficult problems in narrow fields. Consider the brilliant but morbidly obese inventor, scientist or investor. These individuals often display super high intelligence in solving certain problems, but show very low intelligence solving the problem of maintaining good health. If we define intelligence narrowly...our judgement of it will be equally narrow. 

"I was asked once, you're a smart man why aren't you rich? I replied, you're a rich man why aren't you smart?"
― Jacque Fresco


2. It’s relative
If you want to know how smart someone is find out what problems they’ve solved. The third world immigrant with no money, education or language, who through sheer tenacity and ingenuity found a way to the free world while educating and feeding their family...could well be far smarter than Steve Jobs or Mark Zuckerberg. Wondering if you’re smart? Ask yourself what opportunities you've had and what have you done with them? And more importantly, what will you do with the opportunities you have now? 

3. It’s motivating
Once you realise that intelligence is the ability to solve problems the entire universe becomes your laboratory. Go out and fail, learn, succeed, and repeat. Personal growth is about change, and we all have far more capacity to change than most of us believe. Don’t let others define your intelligence in narrow terms. If you can change, and you can, then you’re smart enough to get smarter. Embrace that and get busy.

Science of Highest form of intelligence

There are so many answers, so many interesting ideas to this very interesting question. However, as near as I can tell by scrolling down forever it seems no-one has offered an answer founded in science. Here it is. 

If we want to find the 'highest form of intelligence', the obvious place to start is the 'lowest form of intelligence', then to work our way up and see where it takes us.  This exercise was completed, very effectively, by Frank T. Vertosick Jr. in the book, The Genius Within: Discovering the Intelligence of Every Living Thing. However, Vertosick unfortunately stopped short of the goal, probably due to the common error in scientific thinking - that we must separate 'science' from 'spirit'. 

The lowest form of intelligence resides in chemicals that learn to cooperate to reproduce. Vertosick wrote "When I speak of intelligence, I mean the general ability to store past experiences and use that information to solve future problems. I'm not limiting my discussion to human intelligence... I call this 'brain chauvinism', and I will refute it by showing that all living things -- even those entirely devoid of nervous systems -- can (and must) use some sort of reason to survive... In other words, to be alive, one must think."

Vertosick then goes on to explain the source of intelligence "This book looks at intelligence as an emergent property of large groups. An emergent property is a property manifested by the whole group, even though the same property isn't apparent in any of the individuals comprising the group.... human intelligence is an emergent property of groups of nerve cells. And immune intelligence is an emergent property of a group of immune cells, cellular intelligence is an emergent property of a group of enzymes, and so on.... Networks are the basis of living intelligence in all scales of life from cell to ecosystem."

The logical conclusion is that no human, no single being, not even any group of humans can attain the highest form of intelligence. 

Genes and other genetic components network and cooperate to create the component of DNA, of viruses, and of life. This networking and cooperation create life, health, and intelligence from lower level components.  These form networks with other active chemicals, enzymes, etc. and cooperate to create cells - which have a higher level of intelligence that simple genetic components, viruses, etc..  Cells 'learn' to cooperate and create cell masses and then tissues comprised of different cell types, that have intelligence higher than any simple cell. Cell masses cooperate to create a body, bodily organs and organ systems through cooperation that rises above the intelligence of cells. The body develops sensory systems, that evolve into nervous systems - an even higher level of intelligence.  Nervous systems mass and cooperate to create brain components for vision, hearing, etc that are more sophisticated in their ability to sense, to learn, to predict.  Brain components cooperate to create the mind, which rises above the body and learns to control the body.  A higher level of intelligence.  

Vertosick stops here and does not proceed further up the hierarchy in a comprehensive fashion. However, this hierarchy of life is also the hierarchy of healthicine (Hierarchy of Healthicine- History and Exploration), and we can use that model to rise higher in the levels of intelligence.  

Minds and spirits evolve together.  Every mammal clearly has 'spirit', feeling and acting excited, depressed, happy, hungry, etc. at different times. These feelings are above the level of 'senses' and above the simple functions of the mind - memory, calculation, etc. The spirit arises from minds or mind components working together to create a higher intelligence. 

Above spirits, we have communities of people. Which would include communities not just of body, not just of minds, but communities of spirits as well.  Clearly communities of people can remember more, and resolve problems that single humans cannot resolve.  We can write problems down, and work at them over centuries - there are many examples, and solve them by community cooperation and effort over time. 

Now we can see the common thread. Communities of genetic components create DNA and simple life forms like viruses. Communities of simple life forms create cells.  Communities of cells create tissues, which create organs, and bodies, communities of organs and body parts create living systems like our digestive systems, respiratory systems, hormonal systems, immune systems, nervous systems and more. Communities of systems create more and more complex, more and more intelligent bodies, which develop more complex, more and more intelligent minds and spirits. Communities of individual bodies, minds, and spirits cooperate to create The Beatles, Symphony Orchestras, religions, and many more thing that no individual could create or be by themselves. The intelligence of a city clearly rises above the intelligence of individuals, solving memory and logical problems that individuals cannot solve - but at the same time, it is not 'conscious' of its own intelligence.

Of course not every group, or community, of people creates a higher level of intelligence.  A group can just as easily, perhaps easier, create an unintelligent mob, that does really stupid things.  These groups too can exist over long periods of time - longer than any single lifetime. One of the most important aspects of intelligence includes the ability to make errors, and hopefully, eventually, to learn from those errors. 

The highest form of intelligence is also the lowest form of intelligence. It is the intelligence of groups, knowingly, or unknowingly cooperating to create a new intelligence at a higher level. 

The highest form of intelligence is the intelligence of cooperation to attain goals that were not even seen as possible, or useful, or anything, by the individual components that are creating it. 

Thinking that some aspect of human intelligence could be the 'highest form of intelligence' is simply, to use the words of Vertosick "brain chauvinism". We are not as intelligent as we think. We are only as intelligent as we can work together to attain goals at levels higher than those of the individual.
to your health, tracy

psychological facts on love

We fall in love with someone because of how they make us feel about ourselves. Love is selfish like that.  It's why we keep going back to those who once used to make us feel good in our skin, in our bodies and our faces.  When someone makes us feel funny, smart, attractive, talented, desirable we innately fall in love with them.  This is true of friendship as well.  

Think of the first moments of lust (this applies, but less "flutteringly" to friendship) when the relationship was new and wonderful.  You likely felt sexy.  You likely felt valuable.  Beautiful.  Intelligent.  Interesting.  Funny.  [insert good thing here]  When once-great relationships turn bad, but the people keep trying to "make it work" and one keeps running back to the other, they are chasing a high not unlike chasing a coke high (for those of you who don't know, the first one or two lines of cocaine is something like bliss without compare; each line thereafter is steadily less and less until you're basically "chasing a memory" of the high; desperate to get it back).  

That's love.  So, if you're ever wondering why your relationship with your partner isn't where it should be:  remember that when people feel good about themselves, they'll likely reciprocate it.  Don't run to the gym and get in shape (okay . . . do that, but don't do just that).  Don't buy flowers.  Make your partner feel beautiful, valuable, virile, strong, sexy, attractive, wanted, important, intelligent, etc.  (actions always speak louder than words)  Make that person feel like they did when you first fell in love.  

NOW, you might be chasing a dream and "that person" may have moved on, but if there's still love in your relationship and hope for a future between both of you, if you make your significant other fall in love with her/himself FIRST, then you'll get them to fall in love with you again.  (and I know this from experience:  I Love you Rick).  

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The strongest way to endear yourself to someone is to express a need for their help and to make them feel needed.  The greatest way to build a friendship is to accept what a person can give and demand that they give it (within reason). This is complicated because this little bit of heuristics seems like it should be well known and well understood.  But we get it wrong so often.

Parable of Jimmy:  Back when I went to church, I had a buddy named "Jimmy".  He was desperate for friendship to the point where he insisted on paying for everything.  It was always Jimmy's treat.  It was always Jimmy who paid.  I'm not a cheapie but this man would wrangle a bill out of your hand.  Jimmy had no friends.  People kept away from Jimmy.  Jimmy was also a very nice guy.  Smart. Deep.  But Jimmy never let anybody pay. 

Why does that drive people away?  Because people need to contribute.  What we contribute to our relationships tells us we're essential and that we have worth.  If people won't allow you to contribute to the relationship within the range of your ability, then they are essentially (and subconsciously) saying: "You are impotent.  You are worthless. You have nothing of value to me.  I don't really need you."

Parable of Ricky: My boyfriend has been in school for fucking EVER.  Jeezis Christ I just want him to be done.  For all of our 7 years, I've paid the bills, he's studied.  Praise Vishnu he's nearing the end of the tunnel.  Anyhoo, about a year and a half ago, he started getting depressed.  Yes, he knew that I wanted him to graduate, but I didn't beat him up over "taking" my largesse.  

Nevertheless, Rick admitted that he couldn't do it anymore.  That he didn't know what to do because he felt like a loser and that he wasn't needed.  I remembered this lesson and the next day, somewhat authoritatively, told Rick how he would "earn his keep".  His job was to do the laundry and clean the entire house every Tuesday.  The whole thing.  Every single last bit of it. Two bathrooms.  Two bedrooms. Three kitty litter boxes.  The floors.  The furniture.  Everything.  I established (a significantly over-valued) worth of the effort at $200 a week (some maids cost $50 an hour so it may not be off by too much).  

By expressing my constant need of him to contribute in this way, it took the annoying pressure off me and by sticking with the very REAL fact that we each contributed to the relationship, it went a HUGE distance to making him feel valued and needed in our house.  

Parable of Pam:  My step-mother brought a previously created son to our family.  We enjoy the same first name.  My little brother Dan is the sibling I'm closest to.  We have the same political outlook.  Same intellectual slant.  Same obsession with movies.  He's almost exactly 10 years younger than me.  So I get to be the older, wiser brother.

My brother's bio-father is a wealthy man.  Pam is not.  Dan is her only bio-son.  There's a connection there that cannot be ignored or disrespected.  We have a very close family, but when a kid was carried in your womb for 9 months and squeezed out of your nether regions, I expect a bonding that is not the same as everywhere else.  

My brother didn't get why bragging about what his dad had bought him ("He's taking us on vacation to XYZ") hurt my step mother.  Moreover, what Pam has to contribute to him -- her unending love, devotion, willingness to do anything for him and her wisdom -- was "all" she had (and that's a lot).  But for my brother, he wasn't understanding why he needed to take what my step-mother could give and why, when he rejected it, he hurt her beyond comprehension.

I explained to him the above points (about needing to be needed; needing to contribute) and informed him:  "When your mother calls and offers unsolicited advice.  Take it.  Thank her for it. Tell her how much it helps.  Lie through your fucking goddamned teeth you ungrateful bastard!!!"  Continuing, "Furthermore, telling your mother you love her is insignificant compared to telling your mother that you need her help.  The moment we ask a person for help within their talents and abilities, we reaffirm their skill, power and contribution to your life.  Once every few weeks, pick up the phone, call Pam and even if it ain't true, say, 'Mom, I need your advice. . . .' and try to take the advice.  That's what she has to give and you need to take it or you're telling her she's not needed and cannot contribute anything of value to your life.  That's devastating for any relationship but especially for a parent."  

So to recap:

• Make a person fall in love with themselves and they'll fall in love with you.
• Take what a person offers, at least occasionally, to tell them they have value.
• Allow a person to contribute within their skills and abilities to let them know they are needed and a part of your family.
• Ask a person for help to reaffirm their self worth and to endear yourself to them.

PASSION

Too many of us believe in a magical being called ‘passion’. “If only I could find my passion”, we cry. “Finding my passion would make me happy”.

Well, passion is real, and very powerful. But almost everything people believe about finding it is wrong.

Rule 1: Passion comes from success

All of our emotions exist for good reason. We feel hunger to ensure we don’t starve. We feel full to ensure we don’t burst. And we feel passion to ensure we concentrate our efforts on things that reward us the most.

Imagine you start a dance class. You find it easy. You realise you’re getting better than others, and fast. That rising excitement you feel is your passion, and that passion makes you come back for more, improving your skills, and compounding your strengths.

The enemy of passion is frustration. If you constantly struggle with something, you’ll never become passionate about it. You learn to avoid it entirely, guaranteeing you never improve.

Most people get this backwards. They think we discover our passion, and that makes us good at something. It’s actually finding that you’re good which comes first. Passion comes from success.

Rule 2: Childhood is where passion goes to die

In theory childhood provides a great opportunity to try a bit of everything, find your talents, and with them, your passions.

But think for a moment how badly the system is stacked against you. Say school lets you try 20 subjects, ranking you against thousands of other children. Those aren’t good odds. Most kids are, by definition, around average. And it doesn’t matter how much we improve education, because people need to feel exceptional to feel passionate, and improving education simply moves up the average.

Say you’re one of the lucky ones, and you’re top of your junior math class. The education system will keep rising your difficulty until you find a level – like college – where you’re not exceptional anymore. Even if you actually are objectively pretty great, once you feel merely average, you’ll find your passion slipping.

And that’s if you’re lucky. What if your passion was for art? From an early age that passion is compromised by its social consequences. “It’s hard to make a living from painting” say your parents. “Your cousin is doing so well from engineering. Why can’t you be more like him?” And so you put your passions to one side, and let them wither.

In a population of billions, it’s obvious that not everyone can be unusually great at a handful of academic subjects. What if your true skills are in speechwriting, or creative dance, or making YouTube commentaries of videogames? None of those things are even on the syllabus.

And so most people grow up without much passion for anything.

Rule 3: Passion can be created

It may help to know that the most successful people in life generally didn’t pick their passion off a shelf.

In fact, many of the world’s most successful people dropped out of education entirely. Not because they were stupid – but because they found other areas where they were more skilled that education did not recognise.

They created their own passions.

Only a tiny fraction of people can expect to excel in the narrow subjects that childhood primes us for. And competition in that space is basically ‘everybody in the world who went to school’, which doesn’t help our chances.

But if you look outside of that space, you’ll find less competition, and more options. And this is how you tip the odds of finding a passion in your favour.

Option 1: Create something

When you create something new, you’re inventing something to be passionate about.

You might design novelty cushions, or write Batman stories, or start a Twitter account dedicated to fact-checking politicians.

New things are relatively uncontested. By creating something new, you’ve made your odds of becoming exceptional far, far higher.

Now it’s important to note that this doesn’t sidestep Rule #1: passion comes from success. So if your new Twitter account only has 5 followers after a year, you probably won’t be too passionate about it. If you had 5 million, you’d have quit your job. You must find success to fuel your passion.

But at least you’ve drastically improved your odds, because your competition is so limited. Only a handful of people will even dare to try something new. And you can be one of them, just by starting.

You see this pattern throughout history’s greats. A student called Mark was never going to be the world’s greatest programmer. But he started building cool websites, and he found he was unusually good at this because even better programmers rarely dared to try. It just so happens one of his little experiments became Facebook.

Option 2: Lead a new trend

The older and more established an area is, the harder it will be to compete in. Millions have got there before you, and the lower your odds of standing out, the lower your odds of being passionate.

But there’s always a new frontier being born, a place where everyone else is hopelessly incapable, and even modest skills can be impressive.

Say you were a teenager who started making YouTube videos, back in 2005. You grow a modest following, and your growing success excites you. By the time the ‘grown up’ world had realised YouTube was Kind-Of-A-Big-Deal with 4 billion views every single day, you’ve become a passionate master of an invaluable new craft.

That isn’t fantasy. There are mountains of hugely successful YouTubers, and most started in the same way: before everybody else. It’s the same for the first bloggers, rappers, and videogame designers.

If you can find something new that’s growing fast, and get skilled at it early, you’ll find it disproportionately easy to excel because of the lack of competition. And that’s your new passion right there.

Option 3: Fuse mediocrity

One limitation of education is it’s designed to narrow your skills. Education generally finds your One Best Thing, and pushes that thing as far as you can stand it:

The problem is most of us, by definition, can’t be the best in any one area. But we can be exceptional in our combinations.

Say you’re an average artist, with a decent sense of humour. You won’t have much hope with an art degree, and you can’t study ‘humour’ as a subject. But you could be an awesome cartoonist.

Or take an average business student, with some programming ability, and decent sales skills. That person is surprisingly well suited to become the boss of others who were better than them in any one of those areas.

The most successful people are almost never defined by a single skill. They are a fusion of skills, often not even exceptional skills, but they’ve made their fusion exceptional. Steve Jobs was not the world’s greatest engineer, salesperson, designer or businessman. But he was uniquely good enough at all of these things, and wove them together into something far greater.

This is the final route you have to finding your passion: combine skills into something more valuable. Remember, passion comes from success. If a new combination gets you better results, that could be your passion right there.

Why passion matters

Passion is attractive. As passion comes from believing you’re unusually good at something, being passionate is a very sincere way of saying, “by the way, I’m awesome”.

Passion will persuade people to follow you. It will persuade people to believe in you. But most importantly, passion will persuade yourself. Passion is an emotion specifically intended to make you go crazy and work your ass off at something because your brain believes it could rock your world. That, like love, is a feeling worth fighting for.

And like love, what we’re passionate about is too important to leave to the mercy of fate. If you haven’t found your passion yet, create new things, lead new trends, and fuse new combinations. But don’t ever stop looking.

அலையின் பாடல் - கலீல் ஜிப்ரான்

அலையின் பாடல் - கலீல் ஜிப்ரான்
வலிமையான கரையே என் காதலன்; நான் அவனது காதலி.
காதலால் கட்டுண்டவர்கள் நாங்கள். நிலவுதான் என்னை அவனிடமிருந்து இழுக்கிறது.
அவசரமாய் அவனை நோக்கி நான் செல்கிறேன்; சட்டென பிரிகிறேன்; பலமுறை சின்னச் சின்ன விடைபெறல்கள்.
நீலவானத்திற்கு அப்பாலிருந்து வெள்ளி நுரைகளை நான் சட்டென திருடி வந்து, அவனது பொன்மணல் மேல் பரப்பி வைக்கிறேன்.
ஒளிமயமாய் நாங்கள் கூடிக் கலக்கிறோம்.
நான் அவனது தாகத்தைத் தணிக்கிறேன். அவனது இதயத்திற்குள் செல்கிறேன்.
அவன் என் குரலை மென்மையாக்குகிறான்; என் சினத்தை அடக்குகிறான்.
விடியற்காலையில் நான் அவன் காதில் காதலின் விதிகளை ஓதுகிறேன். அவன் ஆசையோடு என்னைத் தழுவிக் கொள்கிறான்.
ஏற்றவற்ற அலைகளின்போது நான் நம்பிக்கையின் பாடல் பாடுகிறேன். அவன் முகத்தின்மேல் இனிய முத்தங்கள் பதிக்கிறேன்.
எனக்கு பயம். எனக்கு வேகம்.
ஆனால் அவன் அமைதி; பொறுமை;சிந்தனை.
அவனது நிம்மதியின்மையை அவனது பரந்த மார்பு அமைதிப்படுத்துகின்றது.
அலையடிக்க நாங்கள் தொட்டுக் கொள்கிறோம். அலை பின்வாங்க நான் அவனது காலடியில் விழுந்து வணங்குகிறேன்.
கடற்கன்னிகளைச் சுற்றி பல முறை நான் நடனமாடியிருக்கிறேன். அவர்கள் என் அடியாழத்திலிருந்து எழுந்து அலை நுனியில் நின்று விண்மீன் பார்ப்பார்கள்.
காதலர்கள் பலமுறை என்னிடம் வந்து முறையிடுவது வழக்கம். நான் அவர்கள் பெருமூச்சு விட உதவுவேன்.
பலமுறை நான் பாறைகளை சீண்டிவிட்டு பார்த்திருக்கிறேன். அவற்றை கிச்சுகிச்சு மூட்டியும் பார்த்திருக்கிறேன். அவை ஒரு முறை கூட சிரிக்கவே இல்லை.
என்னில் மூழ்கிப் போகிற உயிர்களை மென்மையாய் ஏந்தி கரை சேர்த்திருக்கிறேன்.
கரைக்காதலன் என் வலிமை எடுத்தது போல அவர்களுக்கு வலிமை தந்திருக்கிறான்.
பலமுறை நான் அடியாழத்திலிருந்து வைரமணிகளைத் திருடி வந்து என் காதலனுக்குப் பரிசளித்திருக்கிறேன். அவன் மெளனமாய் அவற்றை ஏற்றான். என்னை அவன் வரவேற்பான் என்று இன்னமும் தந்து கொண்டிருக்கிறேன்.
கனத்த இரவில் எல்லாம் உறங்க நான் அமர்ந்து ஒரு்முறை பாடுகிறேன். ஒரு முறை பெருமூச்சு விடுகிறேன். நான் என்றும் விழித்திருக்கிறேன்.
அந்தோ! உறக்கமின்மை என்னை பலவீனப்படுத்திவிட்டது. என்றாலும் நான் காதலியாயிற்றே? காதலின் உண்மை கனத்தது அல்லவா?
நான் களைத்துப் போனாலும் எனக்கு மரணமில்லை!

Beauty of English

One of the best I came across...

Beauty of ENGLISH-
Ever noticed how deleting one word after another in a sentence can lead to a nice story ?

Here's an example:

"Oh Jack plz dont touch me at all..!"
"Oh Jack plz dont touch me at...!"
"Oh Jack pls dont touch me...!"
"Oh Jack plz dont touch..!"
"Oh Jack plz dont..!"
"Oh Jack plz...!"
"Oh Jack.. !"
"Oh....!"
"O !"

Drishyam AKA Papanaasam

திருஷ்யம் - வெளி வரும் போதே கேட்க வேண்டும் என நினைத்தேன். கேட்கவில்லை. ஆனால் பாபநாசமும் வந்து விட்டதால் இன்னும் நாசமாவதற்கு முன் கேட்டே ஆக வேண்டும்.
என் மகளின் "கற்பு"க்கு ஒரு கயவனால் குந்தகம் ஏற்பட்டதாக நாலுபேருக்கு தெரிய வரும் சூழல் வந்தால் அதிலிருந்து நான் தப்பிப்பது எப்படி?

ஒரு கால கட்டம் வரை என் மகள் தற்கொலை செய்வதோ- விபத்தில் சாவதோதான் ஒரே வழியென்று எல்லா திரைப்படங்களிலும் காட்டிக் கொண்டிருந்தார்கள்.
இப்போது வளர்ந்து விட்டார்கள்.அந்தக் கயவனைக் கொலை செய்வதே "புரட்சி" என்று நம்புகிறார்கள் போலும்.
செல்போன் கேமராவும், உளவுக் கேமராவும் குறைந்த விலையில் எளிதாகக் கிடைக்கும் தொழில் நுட்ப சூழலில் இன்று நாம் வாழ்ந்து கொண்டிருக்கிறோம்.
நெருக்கடியான நகரங்களில் பெண்களின் அங்கங்களை ஆபாசமாகவோ, ஏன் மறைந்திருந்து நிர்வாணமாகவோ படமெடுப்பது- வீடியோ எடுப்பது ஈனபுத்திக்காரர்களுக்கு இன்றைக்கு முடியவே முடியாத காரியம் ஒன்றும் கிடையாது.
அப்படி எடுக்கப்படும் சூழல் வரும் போதெல்லாம் தனது கற்பு பற்றிய அவதூறிலிருந்து காக்க அவள் கொலையோ- தற்கொலையோதான் செய்தாக வேண்டும் என்று இனியும் நாம் வற்புறுத்திக் கொண்டிருக்கப் போகிறோமா?
எந்தத்தவறுமே செய்யாத என் மகள் இன்னொருத்தன் செய்யும் ஆபாசக் காரியத்துக்காக எதற்காக தற்கொலையோ, கொலையோ செய்தே ஆகவேண்டும் என இச்சமூகம் வற்புறுத்தப் போகிறது?
"நிர்வாணமாய் உன்னைப் படமெடுத்துவிட்டேன். எனவே என் இச்சைக்கு எல்லாம் நீ அடிபணிய வா"- என மிரட்டும் காமுகர்களிடம் "முடியாது. வேண்டியதைச் செய்து கொள்" - என்று முகத்தில் அடித்தாற்போல் சொல்ல்லிவிட்டு அலட்சியமாய் இதனைக் கடந்து செல்லும் துணிச்சல் வேண்டாமா நம் பெண் குழந்தைகளுக்கு?
அப்படி ஒரு பெண் குழந்தை துணிச்சலுடன் கிளம்பினால் இந்த ஒட்டுமொத்த சமூகமும் அந்தத் தூயவளுக்கு துணை நிற்க வேண்டாமா?
இது சாத்தியப் படும் போது எந்தக் கயவனாலும் தவறே இழைக்காத எந்தப் பெண்ணையும் ப்ளாக் மெயில் பண்ண முடியாதே!
இதை விட்டு விட்டு பாதிக்கப் பட்ட என் மகளுக்கு என்னிடம் கூட பாதிப்பைச் சொல்ல முடியா அளவிற்கு குற்றஉணர்ச்சியை ஏற்படுத்துவது எந்த வகையில் நியாயம்?
எளிதான-நிரந்தரமான இந்தத் தீர்வினை விட்டுவிட்டு என்னத்துக்கு வினாடிகள் தோறும் பயந்து சாகும் ஒரு கேடு கெட்ட சமூகப் பொதுவெளியை நமது பெண்களுக்கு நாம் தந்தேயாக வேண்டும் என்று வற்புறுத்திக் கொண்டிருக்கிறோம்?
"வீட்டை விட்டு வெளியே வராதீர்கள். ஆண்துணை இல்லாமல் எங்கும் செல்லாதீர்கள். இரவு நேரத்தில் எங்கும் தங்காதீர்கள்" - என்று பெண்ணின் செயல்பாட்டுக்கு- வளர்ச்சிக்கு - உயர்வுக்கு மிரட்டித் தடைபோடும் மறைமுக ஆணாதிக்கத்தின் அப்பட்ட வெளிப்பாடே அல்லாமல் வேறென்ன இதுபோன்ற பயமுறுத்தல்கள்?
நடுத்தரக்குடும்பத்தின் குறுகலான விழுமியங்களை தகர்த்து விழிப்புணர்வு தருவதற்குப் பதிலாக அவற்றைப் புனிதம் என்றும் நியாயம் என்றும் பிம்பப் படுத்தி எல்லா தரப்புப் பெண்களுக்கும் பொதுவானதாக மாற்ற முனையும் இது போன்ற கலைப்படைப்புக்கள் பாலினச் சமத்துவத்துக்கும், மனித உரிமைக்கும் எதிரானதல்லவா?
நாணமும் அச்சமும் நாய்கட்கு ஆனது தானே. அதையா இனியும் கொடுக்கப் போகிறோம்?
"பாதகம் செய்பவரைக் கண்டால் நீ பயம் கொள்ளல் ஆகாது பாப்பா
மோதி மிதித்து விடு பாப்பா அவர் முகத்தில் உமிழ்ந்துவிடு பாப்பா"
- என்ற வீரத்திற்கான- விவேகத்திற்கான உத்திரவாதத்தை நாமும் நம் சமுதாயமும் எப்போது நம் பெண் குழந்தைகளுக்குக் கொடுக்கப்போகிறோம்?